Modern fathers are rewriting the playbook on fatherhood and stepping up as equal partners in parenting. The hashtag #presentdads is a movement highlighting dad as more than just providers but encouraging them as active partners in pregnancy, birth, and beyond.
From attending antenatal check-ups to mastering nappy changes, fathers play a crucial role in supporting mum’s wellbeing and bonding with their baby from the very beginning says Anathi Gusha, Dis-Chem Clinic Regional manager.
“Gone are the days when fathers waited on the sidelines. Today we are seeing more being hands-on, emotionally present, and fully invested in the journey of parenthood. Whether it’s accompanying mum for clinic visits, advocating for mum’s health, learning baby-care basics, or simply being a steady source of reassurance, their involvement makes all the difference.”
Gusha offers some tips to get father to be present and supportive of their children from day one.
1. Health champion mindset
Mum’s health is a top priority, and being actively involved in her pregnancy journey matters. Attend antenatal visits, ask questions, and stay informed about her needs whether it’s dietary adjustments, prenatal vitamins, or recognising signs of postpartum recovery. Your presence and advocacy help ensure she feels supported every step of the way.
2. Emotional availability
Pregnancy and early parenthood can be overwhelming. Sometimes, mum just needs a listening ear or a reassuring hug. Be present, validate her feelings, and offer comfort. Your emotional support strengthens your bond as partners and creates a nurturing environment for your baby.
3. Birth plan partner
Labour and delivery can be intense, and mum will need you by her side. Discuss the birth plan together to know her preferences for pain relief, delivery positions, and postpartum care. Whether you’re her advocate in the delivery room or her calm anchor during contractions, your involvement makes a world of difference.
4. Preparedness kit
A little preparation goes a long way. Assist to pack a hospital bag with essentials (snacks, comfy clothes, chargers, baby gear) and set up a cosy space at home for mum’s recovery. Taking care of logistics means she can focus on healing and bonding with the baby.
5. Learning attitude
Newborns don’t come with a manual, but parenting classes do! Learn the basics including how to swaddle, bottle-feed, soothe, and change nappies. The more confident you are, the more you can share the load and bond with your little one.
6. Self-care awareness
You can’t pour from an empty cup. Prioritise your own wellbeing, get enough rest, lean on support networks, and don’t hesitate to ask for help. A healthy, balanced dad is better equipped to be the rock mum and baby need.
